26 March 2010 ~ 0 Comments

Celebrating Birthdays? My Child Isn’t Here!

Today the calendar says it’s been another year since our baby died.
Have you experienced that yet?
We have experienced this day 27 times already and wonder where the years have gone?  Sometimes it seems like it happened yesterday.  Other times it seems like a long time ago.

Birthdays are special… a time of celebration… a time of looking into and dreaming of the future and places this child might go.

So how do you celebrate a birthday when your child is not here?
The important thing to decide first is what would make this day special to you?  Do you want to start a family tradition that you will observe every year on this day?

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09 October 2009 ~ 0 Comments

Doing What Comes Next

Recently a friend of mine had a life changing experience.  She has experienced life changing events before but this one is a moment she will remember for the rest of her life.  Suddenly and without warning her husband collapsed while working.  No amount of life-saving techniques made any difference.  She watched in disbelief as her husband died.  He was 55 years old.  She is 48.  There are 5 children still living at home and the youngest is in 3rd grade.

I have been inspired by what I see her doing.  It is something that is serving her really well as she faces many unknowns and is suddenly plunged into the grieving process.
She just keeps on doing what comes next.

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08 October 2009 ~ 0 Comments

Holding On Tight

I read a story recently about a little girl whose name was Jenny.
She saw a cheap string of pearls in a store window and asked her mother if she might buy them.
Her mother told her she could buy them with the birthday money she received from her grandmother.  Since the cost of the string of pearls was more than the money she would receive from her grandmother Jenny needed to earn extra money.

The fact that they weren’t real pearls didn’t matter to Jenny.
She was quite the industrious 5 year old… doing odd jobs for the neighbors and extra chores for her mother.  At last Jenny had saved enough money to buy this beautiful string of pearls.

It was a match made in heaven!
Jenny wore her pearls everywhere, and all the time.

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24 September 2009 ~ 0 Comments

Thoughts of Grandpa Lynn

Today was a sad and happy day…
Today was a day of reflection and memories…
Today was a day of laughter and tears…
Today was the day of my Grandpa Lynn’s funeral…

Grandpa Lynn was 89 years old.  He lived a very active life until the past year when he was in and out of the hospital several times.
Two weeks ago his kidneys stopped working and he knew it was just a matter of time.

We went to see him the day before he died…
We could tell he just wasn’t himself.
Somehow the spark that was always in his eyes just wasn’t there.
Until right before we left…

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08 September 2009 ~ 2 Comments

I Should Be There

Do you ever think about missed opportunities?  Things you want to do but for whatever reason you know it’s not going to happen right now.  Many times things that happened in the past make us sad and we grieve over what might have been… and we grieve over what should have been… and we grieve over what could yet be in the future we cannot see…

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