26 March 2010 ~ 0 Comments

Celebrating Birthdays? My Child Isn’t Here!

Today the calendar says it’s been another year since our baby died.
Have you experienced that yet?
We have experienced this day 27 times already and wonder where the years have gone?  Sometimes it seems like it happened yesterday.  Other times it seems like a long time ago.

Birthdays are special… a time of celebration… a time of looking into and dreaming of the future and places this child might go.

So how do you celebrate a birthday when your child is not here?
The important thing to decide first is what would make this day special to you?  Do you want to start a family tradition that you will observe every year on this day?

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30 December 2009 ~ 0 Comments

Clouds of Grief and Sunshine Days

Clouds of grief and sunshine days

When clouds of grief come it sometimes seems the sun will never shine again.
Days come and go in this fog of grief and it’s easy to feel out of touch with reality.
It’s almost like you’re living in a daze…

Recently we have been having many many cloudy days… It brought back memories of when my baby died.  Cloudy days were hard.  Crying came very easy and moping around seemed par for the course.  I loved it when the sun shone once again.
It seemed easier to cope with grief when the sun was shining.

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09 October 2009 ~ 0 Comments

Doing What Comes Next

Recently a friend of mine had a life changing experience.  She has experienced life changing events before but this one is a moment she will remember for the rest of her life.  Suddenly and without warning her husband collapsed while working.  No amount of life-saving techniques made any difference.  She watched in disbelief as her husband died.  He was 55 years old.  She is 48.  There are 5 children still living at home and the youngest is in 3rd grade.

I have been inspired by what I see her doing.  It is something that is serving her really well as she faces many unknowns and is suddenly plunged into the grieving process.
She just keeps on doing what comes next.

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31 August 2009 ~ 0 Comments

Tommy Dorsey’s Special Song

Alone… in a fog of grief…falling apart…feeling that God did him an injustice…not wanting to write anymore songs… Tommy Dorsey shares his poignant story. A rich melody came to his soul, healed his spirit, restored his joy. One man’s triumph over the bitter pain of death, grief, intense sorrow, and loss.

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18 June 2009 ~ 1 Comment

Have You Given Yourself Permission To Cry?

Have you ever heard the expression “For crying out loud”?
What does it mean to you?
Some might say it’s just a silly expression of surprise when something unusual happens.  “Good Grief” is often used the same way.  Is there a grain of truth in these sayings?
Is it really okay to cry out loud?
Is it okay for others to cry out loud but not okay for you?
Grief can be intense . . . real intense!  Sometimes grief comes when you’re the least prepared. . .

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