Have You Given Yourself Permission To Cry?

Have you ever heard the expression “For crying out loud”?
What does it mean to you?
Some might say it’s just a silly expression of surprise when something unusual happens.  “Good Grief” is often used the same way.  Is there a grain of truth in these sayings?
Is it really okay to cry out loud?
Is it okay for others to cry out loud but not okay for you?
Grief can be intense . . . real intense!  Sometimes grief comes when you’re the least prepared. . .

Is it okay to cry when your baby dies? Is it okay for men to cry or are they exempt? Is it okay for grieving parents to cry when they experience the pain, separation and intense sorrow of death?
Most people do cry… men, women, parents, grandparents, children.

Crying is a normal emotional reaction when you feel sad or happy.
Is crying something you need permission to do?
Are tears shameful to you?
Are tears a sign of weakness?
Does it mean you’re not a man if you cry?

There are different kinds of crying and different kinds of tears.
Basically tears are the lubricant of the eye. Every time you blink the tear gland secretes a thin film of tears to keep the eye moist and free of dust and irritants. Whether you are awake or asleep, happy or sad, the salty fluid we call tears is continuously flowing from the tear glands. When the eye is irritated it produces more tears. When you are happy or sad your tear glands produce emotional tears.

Have you ever heard the expression “For crying out loud”?
What does it mean to you?
Some might say it’s just a silly expression of surprise when something unusual happens. “Good Grief” is often used the same way. Is there a grain of truth in these sayings?

Is it really okay to cry out loud?
Is it okay for others to cry out loud but not okay for you?
Grief can be intense . . . real intense! Sometimes grief comes when you least expect it and at moments when you are unprepared to express exactly what you are feeling.

Give yourself permission to cry NO MATTER WHAT!
Give yourself permission to cry NO MATTER WHERE!
Give yourself permission to cry NO MATTER WHEN!
Give yourself permission to cry NO MATTER WHY!

You will find you just feel better when you can cry and release your tears of emotion. It doesn’t matter if you’re a man or a woman. If you are having a tearjerking moment it is important for you to be okay with it. Allow it to happen. This is not a time to “buck up” and act like nothing is happening.

For Crying Out Loud!
Suppressing emotional tears will only delay the healing process.
Suppressing emotional tears can mean you will grieve later.
Suppressing emotional tears keeps your grief and pain locked inside.

For Crying Out Loud!
There is beauty in tears… each time a tear trickles down your cheek it is significant of cleansing. Not only to the eye itself but to your soul. Tears wash away the grief, anger and pain of intense sorrow and help you to focus clearly again. Tears are like a spring rain. They awaken us to new life, joy and purpose. Do not ever be ashamed of tears. Tears are one of the ways the body heals itself when it has been hurt. Do not deny yourself the privilege of healing your heart. Allow yourself to cry! Now is the time to cry… when your heart is breaking the most. Not later…

For Crying Out Loud!
Tears can be a major stepping stone in your journey of grief as you deal with the death of your child…the death of your loved one…the death of your baby.

For Crying Out Loud!
Crying just makes you feel better!

With compassion, love…and Tears!
Here’s to crying out loud!
Susan

Ps.  I came across a poem I want to share with you.  Click here to read “A World Without Tears”.

Posted on June 18, 2009

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One Response to “Have You Given Yourself Permission To Cry?”

  1. Milli Thornton 17 July 2009 at 8:51 pm Permalink

    Beautiful, Susan. You really nailed it. My favorite part was:

    “Tears are one of the ways the body heals itself when it has been hurt. Do not deny yourself the privilege of healing your heart.”

    Thank you! People need to hear this.


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